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5 Hard Truths About Romantic Love, Relationship, and Determining Astrological
oh... I feel at least a couple of dreaded (but necessary) Jupiter rising
sermons coming on... sermons about romantic love, relationship, and the
art of determining astrological compatibility!
I - Wherever You Go, There You Are!
Hard truth number one is that any astrologer performing a personal, face
to face, reading on your astrological compatibility with another person
knows that - when the rubber meets the road - much of “compatibility”
is based on:
Who in the heck are you?
• What destructive unconscious life myth(s) (scripts) are you
• How hard are you to get along with?
• What sort of life and/or soul lessons are you
on the planet to learn?
• What is it that you need in your life
that's causing you to repeatedly unconsciously
draw in and attract certain types of people?
of the above adds up to who you are as an individual
and not the other "magical" person...
- Purpose of Relationship - Soul Growth
paradox of relationship will always be that rather than solve our
problems it brings us new problems, new complexities. But we also
grow immensely from these problems… these complexities. In short…
the greatest gift of relationship proves to be that as the result
of encountering each other we are obliged to grow much larger than
we had planned.” What Matters Most: Living a More Considered
Life, James Hollis, PhD
or never does a marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly
and without crisis. There is no birth of consciousness without pain.”
C.G. Jung CW17:The Development of the Personality:331
that’s right, friends and neighbors… committed relationships
are, in part, for the purpose of bumping of heads, and for the building
of “consciousness” and "soul"...
Not too romantic,
eh? Not too ooey gooey? Well… not always…
not much comfort in the short term, but regardless of how things (do or
don’t) work out in the end… our soul is going to be enlarged
from the experience of relationship with that other person.
Just so you
don't get too bummed out, here's the (potential) good news:
see, the whole thing in marriage [committed partnership] is the relationship
and yielding -- knowing the functions, knowing that each is playing
a role in an organism. One of the things I have realized - and people
who have been married [in committed relationship] a long time realize
-- is that marriage [committed partnership] is not a love affair.
A love affair
has to do with immediate personal satisfaction. But marriage [committed
partnership] is an ordeal; it means yielding, time and again. That's
why it's a sacrament: you give up your personal simplicity to participate
in a relationship. And when you're giving, you're not giving to the
other person: you're giving to the relationship. And if you realize
that you are in the relationship just as the other person is, then
it becomes life building, a life fostering and enriching experience,
not an impoverishment because you're giving to somebody else.
is the challenge of a marriage [committed partnership]. What a beautiful
thing is a life together as growing personalities, each helping the
other to flower, rather than just moving into the standard archetype.
It’s a wonderful thing when people can make the decision to be
something quite astonishing and unexpected, rather than cookie-mold
products." Short excerpt from An Open Life: Joseph Campbell
in Conversation with Michael Toms
- Love is Risky Business
Hard Truth number three is perhaps the most important Hard Truth:
Love is risky
Love is risky
business. And no astrologer on the planet can provide you with a blank
check guarantee of success. Think about it for a second... if I were
somehow clever enough to be the one astrologer on the planet that could
provide a 100% (or even a 70-90%) guarantee regarding the ultimate “success”
of a relationship (and that magical person will never leave you) - then
I'd be charging the price of a medium sized country for my readings
and people would be lining up in droves to pay the high price.
it was sometime during the European Renaissance that romantic love and
love affairs of the heart came to be primarily associated with the astrological
5th house of gambling - associated with the excitement of the gamble,
the risk, the pleasure, and the youthful, playful awakening of new and
- as a wisened teacher - judiciously (much in vain) attempts
to instruct us that regardless of the many "safety nets" we
construct in order to "even up" the odds... romantic love
and attraction will always remain a gamble, an emotional risk, and a
leap of faith that we must choose to take (or not) when entrusting our
heart to another person.
We often refer to "falling in love" as two people "having
the right chemistry." And science has indeed now discovered and
confirmed what we have long intuited.
now know that "falling in love" involves a "chemical communication"
caused by pheromones that we share with the rest of the animal kingdom.
Biology further instructs us that this "falling in love" thing
- along with its chemical communications and changes in the brain -
at best, lasts only 12 to 18 months. After that, you're on your own.
in love is definitely risky business. But, after everything is said
and done... that's part of the joy, part of the torture, and part of
the sheer intensity that makes the experience and risk of "falling
in love" irresistible.
- Emotional Baggage – Damaged Goods
It's vitally important in every reading I perform to mention hard truth
number four - that there are more than a few folks out there so very
emotionally damaged (filled with anger and resentment) that they are
literally incapable of maintaining and/or sustaining a loving soul bond
relationship with you (or anyone else) that builds up and creates new
life rather than tears down and destroys.
There are birth
chart “markers” or “clues” of potential major
emotional issues and/or baggage that the other person (or, for that
matter, you) is dealing with in this lifetime.
there is no way based simply on looking at the birth chart to determine
or predict how successfully they (or you) have dealt with these issues
in their (your) life.
if you have hooked up with one of these severely emotionally damaged
individuals. It happens – and, when it happens, it would seem
that all the soul bond connections in the world may not be able to overcome
the damage and who they have become as an individual.
painful when this happens. Trust me, I know… been there, done
- Honest Astrology doesn't claim to have all the answers
As astrologer extraordinaire, Liz Greene has often been fond of pointing
out, there appears to be an unknown “X factor” at play when
it comes to matters of the heart.
heart has its own reasons that the mind cannot comprehend..."
this fascinating Ted Talk video on the Brain in Love:
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