Dr Z's: Scorpio and Sex

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Yep! Practically everyone knows the somewhat nefarious Scorpio "reputation."

C'mon... you know... while Scorpios like a good secret (or two)... it's certainly not a secret that Scorpios are known for being sexy, seductive, and sensual lovers.

In fact, it's probably this Scorpio "reputation" that got you to this article on Scorpio and sex!

Many also know that in traditional astrology the Zodiac sign of Scorpio rules the genitals.

And, yep, jokes abound as to how Scorpios are into kinky sadistic/masochistic sex, enjoying wild insatiable sexual escapades that somehow involve the use of whips and chairs...

However... there is so much more to the connection of Scorpio with sexuality than that; and so I'm about to introduce you to more about Scorpio and sexuality than you probably, ever in your life, wanted to know!

Scorpio, Sex, and Mystical Transformation

"The essence [of Scorpio] is transformation, and it is inherently mystical. This is not the mysticism of Christianity, which is primarily otherworldly, ascetic, and self-denying. It is a mysticism that sees the power of transformation at work in ordinary reality. Rather than deny the physical universe in order to transcend it, Scorpio will immerse itself in physicality and even drown in it in order to go beyond it."

"Whether in criticism or in envy, Scorpio is often called an extremely sexy sign. But if one is referring to the simple enjoyment of sex, Scorpio is not necessarily sexy. In fact, the sign is capable of denying itself sex altogether. Yet there is a relationship between Scorpio and sexuality. It is not the search for pleasure that brings a Scorpio to sex, it is the search for transcendence. The orgasm offers one of the few experiences of ego death and self-transcendence that is accessible to the ordinary human being. And it is characteristic of Scorpio that this is also one of the few experiences where ego death and supreme ego gratification are experienced at the same time. Scorpio does not feel the need to separate the two as much as other signs do. To a Scorpio, no matter how attractive and sexy the partner is in other respects, love that does not contain drama and emotional intensity will not endure." short excerpts taken from Rob Hand's Horoscope Symbols

Wonder and Awe
Yep... having the Sun and other personal planets located in Scorpio, I used to read Rob Hand's illuminative description of Scorpio with a genuine sense of wonder and awe. I was fascinated as to how this Sun Sign Sagittarius astrologer had managed to grasp so much of the pure essence of Scorpio and sexuality.

Then I finally discovered that Rob, of course, has some pretty significant placements of his own in the sign of Scorpio, as well as, birth chart aspects involving Scorpio's modern ruler Pluto.

"Rather than deny the physical universe in order to transcend it, Scorpio will immerse itself in physicality and even drown in it in order to go beyond it."

"It is not the search for pleasure that brings a Scorpio to sex, it is the search for transcendence."

Know it or not... believe it not... Rob's description of Scorpio is pure Plato (428/427 BC – 348/347 BC) ... but then during the European Renaissance the birthday of the ancient Greek philosopher Plato was celebrated on November the 7th, when the Sun was located in 10 degrees of Scorpio. So, at the very least, Plato was an honorary Scorpio.

Plato, Sexuality, and Transcendence
In defining Eros (erotic love) as "passion aroused by beauty," the ancient Greek philosopher Plato understood the pathway to his famous metaphysical, eternal "ideas" [one of which was "Beauty"] as a road that first takes one straight into and through the heart and depths of eroticism and sexuality.

For Plato, the spiritual journey - where one could enter into a heavenly type of existence called "full sensuousness" - was not a voyage where one could hope to skirt around and/or avoid the "physical sensuous." For Plato, no shortcuts around the lusty love goddess, Aphrodite, or her son Eros are allowed.

It's in the "Symposium" that Plato vividly explains that Eros is the soul's driving power that is capable of catapulting the soul from the physical (sexual) love of the body to the spiritual (mystical) contemplation of love and the everlasting "ideas" (God).

"Plato seems also to be aware that there is a mystery of love not only in nature, but in man, extending far beyond the mere immediate relation of the sexes. He is conscious that the highest and noblest things in the world are not easily severed from the sensual desires, or may even be regarded as a spiritualized form of them... Love is with Plato not merely the feeling usually so called, but the mystical contemplation of the beautiful and the good. The same passion which may wallow in the mire is capable of rising to the highest summit - of penetrating to the inmost secret of philosophy." From Introduction to the Symposium - Benjamin Jowett

Back To Reality
Wow! Plato's concept regarding the divine mysteries of love and sex may feel more than a wee bit foreign and (even) unsettling to you? It certainly doesn't feel comfortable to the average person, as most major (and minor) world religious systems have imparted the morale morays of looking down on our sensuality, desires, and sexuality. We view them as being patently "unspiritual" if not downright "sinful."

The prevailing Collective Consciousness (Society) of the past 2,000 years has managed to successfully create an uncrossable chasm separating spirituality from sexuality. To the typical societal way of spiritual thinking... our sensuality and sexuality are certainly not a pathway to the Divine! Rather, the two (spirit and flesh) are split apart and considered antithetical.

And I would be remiss if I didn't admit that Plato's writings betrayed that he, himself, remained divided (split) and uncomfortable when it came to his own personal views of sexuality.

The Transcendence of Scorpio
Enter Scorpio... in its pure essence, Scorpio is the one archetypal Zodiac sign - as symbolized by Scorpio and the Eagle - that can potentially help us "bridge" or "transcend" this seemingly uncrossable chasm between spirit and flesh.

According to astrologer Richard Idemon, the true seduction of Scorpio and Eros occurs: "when two or more separate entities combine in such a way that they are totally transformed by the experience."

Scorpio and Eros are often typically associated with sex and sexuality. However, Idemon reminds us that (unfortunately) not all sexuality is truly "erotic..." This is to say that not all experiences of our sexuality are truly transformative. And, conversely, eroticism (contrary to popular belief) does not necessarily involve sexual union with another person...

Death of Ego
According to Idemon, Scorpio and Eros (and true eroticism) always involves death of the ego, emotional merging and shared transformation with another entity. For example - the passion of Eros and eroticism can take place between the artist and the erotic object of her/his art.

Likewise, says Idemon, the emotional catharsis that we experience in a crowded movie theater full of strangers will most likely be much more truly erotic than a meaningless "jump in the hay" with a stranger.

Souls and Psyches
Attempting to bring all of this back down to earth where we live... Scorpionic eros desires much more than the mere physical merging of bodies. Scorpio desires to merge souls and psyches. For Scorpio, sex is not only for purposes of self-pleasuring.

The archetypal energy of Scorpio is inspired and stimulated by arousing, awakening, and transforming someone (or something) other than the self... Perhaps the truly good news for Scorpio's lover is that the erotic connection for Scorpio often involves finding ways to give the other person pleasure.

Yeah... Right, Dude!
However... just try explaining all of the above - that your sexuality is inextricably connected to your spirituality - to a lover having very little emphasis on Scorpio, Pluto, and/or the 8th house in their birth chart. They will lovingly (but cluelessly) nod their head with the glassy look of a deer caught in the headlights...

Yep, folks... your Scorpio lover is capable of experiencing the spiritual and emotional depths of intense passion, yearning, and desire. As your lover, Scorpio will (once they trust you) attempt to lead you into his/her innermost depths. Taking in this inner-journey into the depths of Scorpio, then can potentially enable you, as Scorpio's lover, to reach into and experience your own deepest passions, yearnings, and desires.

As Scorpio's lover, getting in touch with the dark depths of your own truest passions and desires may or may not be comfortable. If not comfortable with your own deepest passions and desires, then you may find yourself "headed for the hills" just as fast as your little legs can carry you.

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