You
say that you're clueless about which Zodiac Sign is located on the cusp
(beginning point) of your 7th House. If you know the exact time of
your birth (i.e. 8:09 pm, 5:34 am, etc. ) - then get your birth chart
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"When
an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside as fate."
C.G. Jung
Shadow
Lover
"You're So Not Me!"
Libra & the 7th House with
affinities to Venus
On
the wheel of the Zodiac horoscope - the sign of Libra (and the 7th House)
is the first time that two individuals choose to come together for the
purpose of committing themselves to a partnership.
In
Libra, these are the partners whom we have chosen to be in our
lives. So
Libra, the 7th House, and Venus are about choices, balance, and weighing
our options. Swiss Astrologer Gret Baumann-Jung (in her article "Some
Reflections on the Horoscope of C.G. Jung") reminds us that the 7th house
is likewise one of the places where we can find our shadow and the Shadow
Lover.
What
Is "The Shadow?"
In a nutshell, "The Shadow" contains those parts of ourselves
we've chosen to "give away." We've chosen to give away these
parts, because these parts didn't fit into our ego concept of "who
we are" and/or "who we should be."
You see...
while growing up - society, our friends, and our parents were constantly
sending us messages regarding what they considered to be "acceptable"
behavior and what they considered to be "unacceptable" behavior.
As young pliable children, hungry for love and approval, we quickly learned
how to adapt, "fit in," and please those around us. In order
to do this, we had to hide away all our more "unacceptable"
thoughts and behaviors.
As children,
we forcibly stuffed all those nasty unacceptable thoughts and behaviors
far away and down into our psychic basements. Driven deep underground,
these "unacceptable" thoughts and behaviors eventually fell
into the "so not me" Shadow. We mistakenly believed all those
nasty unacceptable thoughts and behaviors were buried away and forgotten.
We mistakenly thought they were in a place, where they'd never, ever bother
us again. We were wrong!
The
7th House Shadow Lover
In the astrological birth chart - the
cusp (a fancy word for "the beginning point") of the 7th house is also
called the Descendant. The Descendant signifies The Other, The Beloved,
the "you're so not me," and/or the Shadow Lover.
The
7th House reflects:
- certain
characteristics and qualities we've unconsciously chosen to value -
but
over the course of a lifetime, we've also
unconsciously chosen to believe
we don't have these valued qualities (and
so they've "fallen into
shadow"...)
- and
therefore, we unconsciously look for (and invariably find) these valued
shadow qualities when choosing a partner or life mate.
And the main reason we feel these 7th house Shadow Lover qualities are
so very attractive and magnetic within other people is:
Deep down we don't believe we have these valued characteristics. And
the other person so seemingly, perfectly embodies the
qualities for us. So we want, expect, and (yes) demand
our lover(s) to "live
out" these qualities for us.
Ooh
Baby, Ooh Baby!
We want (and are internally programmed
to expect) the beloved Shadow Lover to live out and provide all those
attractive, magnetic qualities in our lives. We
become irrationally (unconsciously) overwhelmed with emotions, feelings,
and desires that inform us that we need the qualities of the beloved
Shadow Lover. We believe we need the beloved Shadow Lover in order to
complete us.
Partners/Opponents?
In the astrological birth chart, the 7th
House is traditionally associated with marriage, open opponents, and partnerships.
At
first glance, it may seem contradictory to include both partnerships
and open opponents in the same "class" of human experience.
One reason
why the 7th House reflects both partnerships and open opponents is that
age old "love/hate" thing which so often happens when our intimate relationships
start ripping apart at the seams.
You see...
the "you're so not me" shadow energies of the 7th house often attract
and repel at the same time. You know... you've been there and done that...
When our intimate relationships start ripping apart at the seams - then
the very same prince or princess, whom you once loved so completely and
fervently, is now transformed into an ugly frog or witch that you despise
just as completely and fervently...
The very
same qualities and characteristics, which once made the person so
incredibly attractive and lovable, are now the very same qualities
and characteristics (dressed up in slightly different clothing) that repel
and disgust you.
Here's a
concrete example of how this works:
Positive
Shadow: If your 7th House cusp is located in the sign of Aries
- then your positive shadow lover characteristic
might defined as the quality of "bravery." The warrior-like
bravery of Aries is a quality you unconsciously admire
(and are attracted to) in other people.
Negative
Shadow: Surprise! Your 7th house negative Aries' shadow lover
is also related to the quality of "bravery." However, this time around,
you don't call it "bravery." More than likely, you call it something
like foolhardiness, recklessness, being too brash and/or too headstrong.
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Finding The Shadow Lover in the Birth Chart
Follow this link for concrete examples on how to find your 7th house "issues"
in the birth chart.
Summing
Up...
Rule
of the Psyche 101:
In the birth chart: whatever we refuse to "live
out" for ourselves, we will unconsciously behave and act in ways which
force the people closest to us to "live it out" for us.
That
statement deserves repeating:
In the birth chart: whatever we refuse to "live
out" for ourselves, we will unconsciously behave and act in ways which
force the people closest to us to "live it out" for us.
"When
an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside
as fate."
C.G. Jung
Our
Mission?
Our mission as adults (should we choose
to accept our mission) is to begin redeeming and "living out" the energies
of the 7th House Shadow for ourselves. That
way we can begin the process of putting a stop to compulsively, continually
meeting up with (in all the worst ways) our 7th House Shadow energies
in the guise of our lovers.
Redeeming
our Shadow Lover lets our mortal, flesh and blood lovers "off the hook"
- and then allows us (and our lovers ) to be more fully, wholly who we
(and they) are.
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